Yes, it’s the ole, what got you here, won’t get you there. As in, the habits and strategies that got you to your present circumstances, will not be the same as what you need to reach your next goal. If you’re surviving at a certain level you’re treading water and expanding is required in order to thrive!
Keep commitments to yourself
Most people don’t know much about the process of actually committing to their life dreams and goals, because most people don’t keep most of their agreements. Most people add a silent, unconscious modifying phrase to all their commitments: “…as long as it’s not uncomfortable.” Or at least not TOO uncomfortable. This chink in your armor is all that excuses need to wedge their way in. As Arnold Schwarzenegger put it, “You can have results or excuses. Not both”.
“You can have results or excuses. Not both.”– Arnold Schwarzenegger
What they don’t realize is that discomfort is one of the values of commitments, one of the reasons for making a commitment in the first place. Within us is an automatic goal-fulfillment mechanism- our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind filters the stimulation of the world around us and allows us to see only what we’ve set the filter to allow in.
Your subconscious creates a path
Have you ever decided that you want a new car that is a specific brand and color and suddenly see it EVERYWHERE? That’s because you have set the filter of your subconscious mind to seek the thing you desire. There aren’t suddenly more of that vehicle everywhere you go, you just NOTICE it more than before.
When we COMMIT to something, we are setting the filter in our subconscious mind, the goal-fulfillment mechanism, “I want this.” The goal-fulfillment mechanism says, “Alright, I’ll arrange for that.” And it does. It sees every opportunity around you to make that goal a reality. Your mind gets wildly creative- where there’s a will there’s a way. You don’t waste time and energy pondering excuses or focusing on the struggle because that doesn’t help you achieve your goal. You are solutions-oriented; you find what you’re looking for.
Learn what will get you there
You’ll discover lessons you must learn in order to achieve your goal. Sometimes, these lessons come in pleasant ways. You may notice a meaningful Instagram post, a conversation with a friend reveals something to you, or a song on the radio has a line that tells you something important. Other times, the lessons are unpleasant, like the loss of a job, someone we love getting sick, or doctor telling you to change your habits “or else”.
Our subconscious mind sees what is in the way of you having what you want, and removes it or goes around it because being stopped by it is simply not an option. Again, sometimes this can be pleasant if the goal is, (sticking with the car analogy), a new car and someone offers you a great price for your old car, or unpleasant, like your current car being totaled in an accident.
Expand your comfort zone
In order to have something new, our comfort zone must be expanded to include that new thing. The bigger the new thing, the greater the comfort zone must expand. The only way to expand a comfort zone is to encompass more territory, which is currently in the uncomfortable zone. It will be uncomfortable before it becomes comfortable.
Discomfort is part of the process
When people don’t understand that being uncomfortable is part of the process, they use the discomfort as a reason NOT to expand. Then they don’t get what they want. We must learn to tolerate discomfort in order to grow.
Not if BUT when!
You must understand that it’s not IF you’ll experience discomfort, it’s WHEN you’ll experience discomfort. Decide in advance, is your goal worth the discomfort? Know WHY is it worth the discomfort so that you can remind yourself of that to move through it. Also, have an idea of how will you handle the inevitable uncomfortable struggles and challenges. If you don’t expect the discomfort, that’s the very thing that will throw you off track. Simply knowing growth requires discomfort and how to handle it puts you ahead of most!